Father’s Shadow
by By Sandra Moats
Have you ever seen a little boy or girl
following their father
around? When our son Nathan was little he always
had to have a cowboy
hat on like his dad. He would walk around carrying
his teddy bear,
following Ralph whenever he worked outside. It is
natural for children
to follow their father. A father can lead their
children to great
heights or great lows. Fathers can teach their
children to be godly,
loving and walking in righteousness, or they can
teach them to be
worldly, having thoughts only for themselves and
the things of this
world. Children are shadows of their fathers.
Fathers, unknowingly at times, shape their
children’s lives. They
represent God to their children. Peeking into the
Bible we see that
fathers are given the responsibility to teach
their children the ways
of the Lord, Ex 18:18. They are required to
discipline and train their
children in the commandments of God. Pr 13:24,
22:6;Eph 6:4; Col 3:21.
It is the father’s job to teach his children
about life, about
the Bible, and how to come to know and follow God.
It is the fathers
who are to teach their children the clean fear of
the Lord. Pr 1:7;
8:13; 9:10. You may not sit down and teach your
child out of a book,
but you will teach them by your life, and by the
steps on the paths
where you have chosen to walk.
The Bible tells us that the blessing of God is
transferred through
fathers as they teach their children to observe
the statutes and
commandments written in the Bible. De 6:1,2. “And
thou shalt teach
them diligently unto thy children, and shalt talk
of them when thou
sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by
the way, and when
thou liest down, and when thou risest up.” De 6.7.
Fathers share their faith with their children
as they walk
through life. Fathers teach their children by the
way they talk, but
many times more so by their actions. There are
some old sayings that
still hold truth, “What you do speaks so loudly
that I cannot hear
what you say.” And another, “The apple doesn’t
fall far from the
tree.” The influence of a father is great in the
life of a child.
Passion in the heart of a father comes out in
his words. The Bible
says that out of the mouth comes what is in the
heart. Mt 15:11.
Fathers are constantly speaking to their children
about their love for
God or their lack thereof. If a father’s talk is
engaged only about
sports, his idolatry is shared with his children.
For anything that we
are focused on more than God, the Bible says is
idolatry. The father
who loves God will all his heart, mind and soul
will emanate God’s
love to his children in all he says and does. Mr
12:30.
Fathers are charged to teach their children
“When you sit in your
house.” Mealtimes are a great time to teach your
children. Eating
meals together is very important to the well being
of a child. As we
sit down with our 10 children at home the
conversation begins and
grows. It is interesting to watch the direction
the conversations
take. This is the time when fathers can inject
Godly thoughts into the
conversations, and their children will receive
those thoughts more
readily. Food is important to everyone. Food and
conversation go
together in the life and health of a child.
Fathers, God charges you to teach your
children “When you walk by
the way.” Have you ever noticed that children love
to walk and talk?
It is a time when they are like sponges, ready to
soak in all you have
to say. Adam walked and talked with God in the
“cool of the day” or
the evenings while in the Garden of Eden.
Our 10-year old son Daniel can think of more
things to ask and
talk about while walking outside. Outside is where
all kind of
thoughts and questions seem to pop up. “Walking by
the way” includes
teaching your children to work. A father can
instill in the life of a
child good work ethics. It is by taking the time
to teach them skills
that fathers will enhance their child’s life.
Our boys are really thankful that their father
taught them to
build good fences. That is a skill that few boys
in today’s world know
how to do. Currently he is teaching them how to
build a barn. Even
though Ralph is no longer able to do the physical
work he instructs
them how to do it. Last year we needed a hearth
made so we could
install our wood stove. Ralph taught our son
Christian how to make the
tile hearth. That hearth not only services our
family to hold the wood
stove, but enhances the beauty of our home. These
are skills that our
children will fully appreciate and treasure in
years to come. All
fathers have skills that they can teach their
children. During that
teaching time your love for Christ or lack of,
will be spoken loudly
to your child.
Fathers, God charges you to teach your
children “When you lie
down.” With the stress and distractions of modern
day life there are
few fathers anymore who tuck their children in
with prayers and a bed
time story. According to the Bible bedtime is one
of the times fathers
are to teach their children. From time to time we
watch Little House
on the Prairie. In that series the way a father
should teach his
children is well shown. The night farewell from
father is important in
the life of a child. Even if it is a simple, “Good
night, sleep tight”
it means a lot to your child.
Fathers, God charges you to teach your
children “When you rise
up”. How you greet your child in the morning is a
important way to
start the day. “Good morning” or “Oh, Lord it is
morning”, tells your
child how you set the day. Does your child find
you in the Bible in
the morning? Does your child find you joyful and
responsive? Or does
your child find you indifferent and grumpy with
you eyes on the
internet or playing a game. Your attitude and
response to the new
morning speaks to your child loudly. Your attitude
sets the day for
you and your children.
This Father’s Day think about what kind of a
father you are to
your children. Are you a father that states in all
his ways, “As for
me and my house we will serve the Lord”? Or are
you a father that
states in all his ways, live for yourself and this
world. If you
aren’t a father who obeys God’s commands to teach
your children about
God, there is always a new day while you are still
alive. Malachi 4:6
promises in the end times that the father’s hearts
will be turned to
their children. We are living in the latter days,
allow your heart to
be turned to your children. Always remember that
your child is your
shadow.
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