The Greatest Job
by Sandra Moats W T
According to the Bible, God is the creator of
Motherhood. He made
Eve to be a helpmate for Adam, and designed her to
become mother of
all mankind. Genesis 1:27,28.; 2:24; 3:20. Many
women can master the
helpmate part, but the hardest by far, is the job
of being a mother.
In God’s eyes it is the most important job in the
life of a woman.
There are some women who were prepared to be a
mother, like girls
in the famous Duggar family, but others, such as
myself, were taught
like some people teach kids to swim. I felt like I
was thrown right
into the water without a bit of preparation. I
didn’t want any kids
when Ralph and I got married. My mother was not
fond of children,
although she was a good mom to me. I grew up
thinking the best thing
was to not have any kids, and just enjoy our lives
on earth. Well, God
had another idea.
It seems that I caught on quickly and really
enjoyed being a
mother. After our four rambunctious kids were
raised and on their own,
I thought my job as mom raising kids was complete.
But while I was out
running in the mountains of Montana one day, God
gave me the vision of
our daughter Faith in China, and then told me to
go get her! That
vision of becoming a mother again really cut into
my thoughts, plans
and pursuits.
God uses situations and experiences that come
into our lives to
prepare us when He has something He wants done. I
have enjoyed quite a
few professions over the years, and all of them
have added experience
plus skills to enhance my true profession. Among
those enjoyed were:
Cosmetologist, a business owner, Christian
newspaper editor, Morgan
horse breeder, and Associate Pastor many times,
and a mother. The last
job is not the least, I have learned that it is
actually the first and
most important. Looking back, I know that each
profession helped
prepare me for the greatest job of my life; being
mother to 19 kids,
and perhaps more.
Our first 4 children came through natural
birth, they gave us
basic training in parenting skills, and many times
through trial and
error. The best part was the love that was
developed in me as a
mother.
We had a precious woman in one of our churches
who was loved by
everyone. I used to pray, “Lord make me more like
Dorothy.” You need
to be careful what you pray. I was praying for
that kind of love to
flow through me. Dorothy was the mother of 10
children. I learned much
from Dorothy as I watched her interact with her
children and their
situations. When I asked her questions about how
to handle a
situation, she would always smile her lovely smile
and say, “Just love
them, honey.”
In preparation for my greatest job I have
found those other
professions came in handy. I am so thankful for
all that hair-cutting
training. Our first little boy, Nathan, was such a
wiggle worm. It was
a real challenge to get his hair cut without a
nick on the ear. Some
of our boys at home still worry that I might clip
their ears. I have
to say that I did a couple of times through the
years. The girls’ hair
is usually way past the ears so they are much
easier to give hair cuts
to. Even though I only worked a short time as a
cosmetologist that
training has come in handy, and saved us a lot of
money.
Owning businesses was something that God led
me into while we were
pastoring one of our churches. At one point I had
three branches of
that business. It was quite a challenge to manage
all three, and
survive being a mom with three older teens still
at home. I ended up
training one of our daughters, who was being home
schooled, to run one
store. Another daughter, who was married, took
over running one, and I
ran the other one. Our son, Nathan, was our
delivery boy. He liked the
extra money and we all had fun working together.
That experience
taught me how to manage multiple situations under
pressure and still
have fun with our kids.
That business experience taught myself and our
children how to
interact with professional people. And to walk
through working with
some who were not so nice. It prepared me for the
mission of being a
Christian newspaper editor. The newspaper was
birthed during one of my
runs deep into the California mountains to pray.
The area where we
served as pastors was riddled with cult activity.
It was an area that
had a spiritual pipeline to San Francisco and was
being affected
deeply by that influence. All the churches were
experiencing
situations that were connected to cult activities.
Twenty-six
churches, including ours, joined hands in the
mission. God brought
knowledgeable people to help in the parts I was
unable to do. He even
opened the heart of the editor of the local
newspaper to do our
printing. It was conditional that I tell no one at
that time.
The Trumpet was a newspaper that hit a subject
through
testimonies, facts, Scripture, and thoughts on one
issue. One of the
issues was on abortion. I interviewed an abortion
nurse who had
assisted abortions in a large hospital. She gave
her life to Christ
after realizing that she was committing murder.
She saw those innocent
little babies born dead at the hands of doctors
who had sworn to save
lives. The headline of that edition read “I Helped
Murder Babies!”
That caused quite a stir in the county and our
lives were threatened.
That job taught me how to protect my children in
the midst of attack
and how to still have fun with them. It taught our
children that God
does protect His followers. It taught them to be
bold and trust in the
Lord. Children learn from our reactions to adverse
situations. It
bonded us closer as we stood together.
When we answered the call to Montana to
pioneer a new church we
left with two of our older single kids, and a
daughter and her husband
who shortly followed. Our other daughter, who was
married, stayed in
California where her life was established. We also
brought three
foundation Morgan horses to begin my dream horse
ranch. Over the span
of our 10 years in Montana the ranch grew to house
32 Morgan horses,
and produced 52 foals, I sold the foals all over
the USA and exported
them to other countries. Ralph was the Pastor of a
church there and
did construction on the side. My job was to run
the farm.
After a few years our farm had 6 stallions
that were stood for
stud service. I have often thought how taking care
of and handling
those 6 stallions prepared me to interact with our
8 strong sons that
came later. There are many things to learn about
boys and God knew I
desperately needed those lessons. Most important
was learning those
bonding threads that are so important for people
to grow up healthy.
Bonding comes through true relationship that
has displayed love.
It includes taking care of basic needs, keeping
firm boundaries with
loving care in the heart. Many lessons that were
learned came through
a horse named Harry. Harry was the most abused
Morgan horse that came
to me. When I went to pick up Harry I didn’t know
if he would make it
home. God gave me insight on how to reach him and
bring him back to
health. A few years later he went on with another
owner who brought
him into his full bloom. That’s how it is with our
kids. We are to
help them grow up to be healthy loving people and
then release them to
become all that God has for them to be, yet still
loving them, and
being there for them when needed.
When God gave me the vision to go to China to
find Faith, we had
just raised our last child and were enjoying that
empty nest. Faith
was birthed in my heart and Ralph’s as we prayed
about that vision.
Over a 3 year period I traveled in China looking
for the daughter in
the vision. A heavenly connection joined me with
the underground
churches. We did a trade. I taught them the Bible
at night and they
took me into orphanages during the day so I could
look for our
daughter. I loved teaching them, for their hunger
was great.
During a visit on the third year into a
orphanage that we had
previously visited, miraculously our daughter
walked up to me and took
my hand. She and others had just been brought to
that orphanage. I
dropped to my knees in front of her and there was
the girl in the
vision. God had already given me needed
information so many helped to
get things rolling so we could adopt Faith. It
took 5 years to get her
out and it truly was a miracle how she was birthed
into our family.
Those things learned on the ranch would soon
come into play
because we had to learn new parenting skills. The
methods we used on
our biological children did not work on Faith. She
had been through so
much in China and the scars were deep. Slowly the
principles learned
on the ranch were implemented and actually worked
better than our
earlier parenting skills.
After Faith came home I thought that was the
end and my mission.
Little did I know just how many children we would
adopt. We are in the
middle of our 15th adoption right now. Being a
mother is the hardest
job in the world. It may come naturally to some,
but not to me. Now I
know that it is the greatest call upon any woman’s
life. A mother is
able to raise a child and be a friend, even one
they don’t always
want, for the rest of your life. You are the one
they can call Mother,
Mom, Mama, even if they are mad at you. Our
prodigal son and I talked
a while back after months of him not speaking to
us, and the first
word out of his mouth was “Mom”. I thought to
myself, even though you
are angry you still know I am your mom. I will
always love you and be
your mom.
The job of mother is assigned to you by God
when you have children
come to your family whether they come by natural
birth or adoption. I
can tell you this, There is no harder job, and no
job that brings more
sorrow and joy than being a mother. I never cried
so many tears as I
did when I walked with our son Nathan through ALS
and going home to
Heaven. I have a favorite saying that I believe
the Lord put before me
years ago. It says it all...
“One hundred years from now
It won’t matter
What kind of car I drove
What kind of house I lived in
How much money I had in the bank
Nor what my clothes looked like
But
The world may be a little better
Because I was important
In the life of a child.”
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